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Working towards goals as a couple is a great way to engender a team spirit, gives you something to look forward to and keeps you focused in life. Discussing your own personal goals with your partner is a great way to start, but setting some major goals as a couple is also very important in building intimacy and trust. Plus, you will have something to look forward to together.
Remember – goals should be SMART. Be Specific about what you’re trying to achieve together, make sure the end result is Measurable (How will you know when you’ve made it to your goal?), Achievable and Realistic (nothing is more defeating than not being able to make a goal you set yourself! Make sure you don’t ask too much of yourselves!) as well as Timely (When will you have your goal completed by?)
Here are five great goals you might consider setting for yourselves as a couple!
1. Participate in Marathon/Triathlon/Bike Ride
If you’re active types, sit down together and pick an upcoming event – a fun run, a walk, a bike ride, a triathlon and set up a training schedule together. Spend time each week working towards your fitness goals as a team, motivating each other and training together. The adrenalin rush of competing on the day will last long past the finish line! Plus, think of all the fun you could have with your very toned bodies once it’s over! Soaking in a bubble bath together with a bottle of French Champagne is the perfect way to celebrate your victory at the end of it all….
2. Plan a Holiday
More than just a holiday – plan your DREAM holiday! Start by dreaming together over a stack of travel brochures… if you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? What would you do when you got there? How much money will you need to take? Put all the wheels in motion – even if you’re planning it for a few years away, set up your goals for the trip, visit the travel agent and work out what you need to do to make it happen! And save! Set up a separate bank account called ‘Our Holiday’ and schedule a savings plan. Even if it won’t be a reality straightaway, if you don’t start now, when will you?
3. Learn a Language
Pick a language that the both of you would love to learn but never have. Perhaps a language of love? Italian, French and Spanish are all verrry sexy choices! Or the language of a place you’d love to visit together one day. Sign yourselves up to a community college class together. You’ll be perfect study partners, spending nights on the couch whispering sweet nothings in foreign tongues!
4. Take a Class Together
Find a short course in something that interests you both. The options are endless! Photography, music, dancing, wine and food appreciation, yoga… check out your local community college or adult education establishment to see what they offer. Learning new things together sparks dopamine and norephrithrane hormones, patterning the same brain chemistry as when you first fell in love. That means you’ll be high on tummy-butterflies for weeks to come!
5. Savings
Name a figure you want to see in your bank account, work towards it! Decide what it’s for, something that you both want, be it a deposit on a house, a big-ticket furniture item or a car… Sit down and develop a savings plan that works for the both of you. Make sure that once you hit your dream figure and purchase your goal item, you celebrate in style together! Take some of that hard-earned cash and splash out on a romantic night for two!
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Good tips. They helped me get re-inspired to meet my goals.