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Why You Should Make Out. Like, Now.

Why You Should Make Out. Like, Now.

I don’t know about you, but I love to kiss. I could happily make out for hours and hours – though, it’s been years since that happened. We just don’t kiss enough as we get older. Remember the hot and heavy sessions you had as a teenager? Too naïve to go any further, you’d simply [...]

The Three Stages of Love: A Transcript

The Three Stages of Love: A Transcript

This is an adapted copy of a speech I gave the other night at my Toastmasters club on the three stages of love. How do you measure love? It’s a tough question, isn’t it? Love is not something you can see, something you can pin down. Love and science aren’t two things we see in [...]

Want to be Happier? Try This Today

Want to be Happier? Try This Today

Looking for a happiness boost? I just had to share this video. First, watch. Then let’s talk about how we can apply this to our own relationships. Isn’t that beautiful? Being grateful for things we already have is free. But it’s something we often forget to do in our everyday lives. If you could do [...]

3 Easy Solutions to Common Relationship Problems

3 Easy Solutions to Common Relationship Problems

Every relationship has obstacles to overcome. Some of them can be easily solved while others have a tendency to niggle. And niggle. And niggle. The relationship website eHarmony Australia knows a thing or two about what makes relationships work, having brought together many compatible singles over the years, and the below is some advice for [...]

Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Viral Vegetable Video

Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Viral Vegetable Video

Porn sex versus real sex, as explained with vegetables. There’s a reason this video is going viral. Every single person who’s had sex, or even just thought about having sex needs to watch this. Things are never quite as they seem when it comes to the magic of movies. Especially if they’re porn movies.

Should Girls Ask Guys Out?

Should Girls Ask Guys Out?

Equality between the sexes has come a long way. But even after decades of increasingly fairer pay, job roles, rights and more, we’re still stuck on one area in particular… Love. The big question is: should girls ask guys out? As a woman, I think I can safely speak for a vast majority when I [...]

Do You Need a Sex Date?

Do You Need a Sex Date?

There’s no doubt that sex is a great cure for what ails you. Even the medical science boffins will attest to that. Sex is reputed to fix everything from high stress levels to blood pressure, to boosting immunity, increasing self-confidence, helping lose weight and of course, giving you that hard-to-replicate glow we all covet. But [...]

Bending The Rules

It may not be politically correct of me (and it won’t make me popular), but you should know that I’m a Rules girl. If you’re not familiar with the popular but exceedingly sneered-upon franchise, The Rules has alternately been called a Dating Bible for single women

Why Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

Why Pick Up Lines Don’t Work

My last few weekends have been spent on many a dancefloor at many a club, burning up the kind of energy usually reserved for singles on the prowl. It’s not often you find a married, with-a-mortgage female out dancing until 4am on a chilly night when DVDs and the couch are putting up a damn [...]

Regrets of Relationships Past

Regrets of Relationships Past

I read a quote once that said: “Regret is insight that comes a day too late.” Love brings us great joy but can also be our biggest source of disappointment and regret. Almost everyone has some sort of regrets of relationships past. There’s the girl you were too scared to ask out in high school, [...]

New Year <del>Resolutions</del> Goals

New Year Resolutions Goals

Happy New Year! Can you believe it’s 2013? Crazy. I love the new year, though. A fresh start and new hopes. I always like to start the new year on a good note, so the house gets cleaned and I make sure to do something meaningful on New Year’s Day that’s a reflection of how [...]

10 Topics to Avoid on a First Date

This is a sponsored post from the dating experts at www.eharmony.com.au If there’s one thing we all fear when preparing for a first date, it’s the dreaded awkward silence. It’s something we have all experienced before, that tense moment when you bring up a topic that’s always best left untouched. However, the good news is [...]

Is 50 Shades of Grey Just the Same as Porn?

Is 50 Shades of Grey Just the Same as Porn?

I’m sure I’m not the only person in town who’s purchased a copy of 50 Shades of Grey for a friend. Women everywhere are reading it, egged on by converted enthusiasts who are lending, gifting and impressing the book upon all their friends. I had a copy gift wrapped for a mum of two young [...]

Like Poison for Relationships…

Like Poison for Relationships…

Contempt. You’ve seen it on people’s faces before: curled lip, chin raised up, a sneer… maybe an eye roll. Think Sophie Mirabella during a medical emergency. It’s an uncomfortable thing to be in the same room with. But what’s really awful is when you see someone look at their partner that way. I talked last [...]

Are You Having an Emotional Affair?

Are You Having an Emotional Affair?

We know that these days – where there are more females in the workforce than ever before, where they take more equal job positions than men – the parameters of male-female friendships are constantly being redefined to fit our modern world. We’ve come a long way since Mad Men. But even so, the parameters for [...]

Missing You

Missing You

Den and I have been together long time. A long, long time. Longer than any of our previous relationships. In dog years, we’re middle aged. In Kardashian years, we should have been dead and buried ten times over already. A month ago, he went away overseas. He’s not coming back for another whole month. He’s [...]

Who Has Your Ex Been Poking on Facebook?

Who Has Your Ex Been Poking on Facebook?

It’s always been the Murphy’s Law of the dating universe – that the one time you’re doing the milk run with greasy hair, trackies and Ugg boots is the exact moment you’re going to bump into your ex. If the love gods are feeling particularly cruel, the ex will have a new squeeze on their [...]

How You’re Probably Killing Your Libido

How You’re Probably Killing Your Libido

Lost, one libido. Answers to the name of Larry. Careful, may be bitey. The daily commute. Long working hours. Low energy. High interest rates… I don’t mean to depress you, but I’m worried. The worrying is also worrying, because it’s only further adding to the problem. What problem, you ask? That would be the missing [...]

If Your Days Really Were Numbered…

If Your Days Really Were Numbered…

Forget the apocalypse, if we keep modelling our relationships on celebrity marriages and chasing sky-high Hollywood rom-com expectations, we’re all doomed.

How to: Support your partner when they’re stressed

It’s moving week. I told you all about it a few weeks ago – how I was expecting to be tired, at my wit’s end and neck deep in boxes by now. Well, I’m all that. And to add to the fun, all the expected relationship stress has peaked this week as well. So now [...]

A Million Years Ago

If you’re anything like me, you love to look in the past – at the good times and the bad. I love going back to what feels like a million years ago to remember who has been involved in my life and who is no longer a part of it. I know they say never [...]

Supporting Your Partner Through Times of Stress

Supporting Your Partner Through Times of Stress

It’s moving week. I told you all about it a few weeks ago – how I was expecting to be tired, at my wit’s end and neck deep in boxes by now. Well, I’m all that. And to add to the fun, all the expected relationship stress has peaked this week as well. So now [...]

How to Impress the Parents

How to Impress the Parents

“How soon is too soon to meet the parents?” someone asked the other day. My friend E would probably argue that you should at least be dating the guy before you have to make that decision. She turned up at a – ahem – friend’s house late one night for what was, by all accounts, [...]

Who Lies About Money?

The very clever team at Deals.com has come up with this cute-as-ten-buttons visual representation of Love & Money based on some recent findings… just in time for Valentine’s Day! Money is one of those Big Things that couples argue most about. You only have to look below to see that no matter if you’re doing [...]

Date Ideas and The Circle

It’s been quite the day! I joined the lovely crew of The Circle on Network Ten here in Australia to chat all things date night, cheap dates and more… unfortunately we were cut off just at the end by a press conference covering the Tropical Cyclone Yasi events overnight – what a news day! Thankfully [...]

Can You Define Romance?

Everyone’s got a different idea of romance… lets take Valentine’s Day for example. It’s around the corner (only a few weeks away) and it’s pimped out as the MOST romantic day of the year. Whether you accept it or not, that is how most of us feel. In a perfect world what would your partner [...]

Co-dependent Couples

My parents are one of those couples who have to do EVERYTHING together! There are exceptions such as shopping or running errands, but on whole they won’t spend a night apart and heaven forbid if they’re going to travel without the other person. Most times I find this cute; it makes me feel like they’ve [...]

Revenge: A Dish Best Served Cold

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned… And it does seem to be the women that are particularly good at exacting revenge. It’s easy to fly into a temper when your partner does something wrong by you. Something really wrong, I mean. Like cheating. Lying. Stealing. Any damage to the ego seems to result [...]

All You Need to Know About Gift-Giving

In one of our many, many differences, Den doesn’t come from a big gift giving family while I come from The Biggest gift giving family you’ve ever seen. In fact, when Den and I met he was quick to tell me that he doesn’t “do” presents. For the first birthday I had when we were [...]

Everything You Need to Know About Budgeting as a Couple – Part 3

So, you’ve successfully held a couples money and budgeting meeting together, as outlined in Part 1 and Part 2 of this series. Now what? Guest Poster Timothy Ng fills us in on how to ensure smooth ongoing handling of finances. Successfully Managing the Budget as a Couple With an understanding of your partner’s attitude to [...]

Everything You Need to Know About Budgeting As a Couple – Part 2

So you’ve done your prep from Part One and you’re ready for your first Couples Money Meeting. Here’s how to tackle it. Part 2 in this series that we’ve asked guest poster Timothy Ng from Credit Card Finder to put together for us: With your individual meeting prep done, it is time to lay the [...]

Everything You Need to Know About Budgeting as a Couple

As I told you earlier in the year, I kinda suck at saving. I’m learning how this year, and it’s going okay. Den is exceptionally good at saving. Needless to say, the discrepancy causes a few, ahem, disagreements between the two of us. With the purchase of our first house looming ahead of us, it’s [...]

Do You Make These Relationship Mistakes?

Relationships don’t come with instruction manuals. It’s a funny thing, because anytime you’re embarking on a new adventure be it a baby, a holiday, or buying a house, you tend to research everything you can on the subject. But how many people arm themselves with instructions on how to be in a relationship? Not many. [...]

Write Wedding Vows You Can Be Proud Of

There’s the boring. There’s the funny. There’s the soppy. And then there’s that special balance in between that is touching and sweet while also packing a little giggle. I think your goal when writing your wedding vows should be to get your audience to shed a few sentimental tears. Everyone comes to a wedding ready [...]

Get Lips Guys Will Love!

Continuing our week of beauty, the divine Stefanie from The Lip Print imparts her beauty wisdom on us with great tips for great lips! Picture this: you’re enjoying a blissful Date Night with your partner. The mood is perfect, there’s ambient lighting and smooth background music. You close your eyes and lean in for a [...]

Fuss-Free Beauty – New Fun Things

There are three new things in particular that have come to my attention this week in the fuss-free beauty arena. I’m pretty excited about them! As we discussed earlier in the week, being in a relationship makes me lazy when it comes to grooming. I know a lot of other women in the same boat. [...]

Fuss-Free Beauty – Things I Love

When it comes to my beauty routine, I’m kind of lazy. Add to that my general busy-ness and my hate of early mornings and what you get is a girl who either doesn’t have time or patience to spend hours in the bathroom every morning. In an ideal world, one of two things would happen. [...]

A Week of Beauty on $30 Date Night

Happy 201st Post, Daters! Just to mix things up a little bit, this week $30 Date Night is going to take a little deviation down the beauty route. Why, you ask? What does that have to do with dating and relationships? Plenty, it turns out. Because if you feel good about yourself you’ll feel better [...]

Why We Love, Why We Cheat

In the midst of researching for my new ebook, I came across this great presentation given by Dr. Helen Fisher at the 2006 Ted Conference. We love Dr. Fisher’s research and I don’t know how this particular clip has eluded me for four years now. In it, she explains the brain chemistry of the stages [...]

6 out of 10 People Not Trying Hard Enough

Wow, Daters. Did you know that 6 out of 10 people are unhappy with their relationships? That’s a lot of people. 60% in fact (I should’ve done maths and stuff). The Daily Mail reported last week that: “More than six out of ten adults in a relationship admit there is a lot they could do [...]

Delight Your Partner with Inexpensive Nothings

Ahh… whispering sweet nothings is lovely, but handing over a sweet littIe gift to your partner for no reason whatsoever will melt them to a puddle of goo in a second. As you know, we’re all about relationships with intent here at $30 Date Night. Break your usual routine and make your partner’s day by [...]

Using the Mere Exposure Effect to Your Dating Advantage

I wrote in my column a few weeks back about the theory behind Office Romances and why they are so prevalent these days. The idea is that the Mere Exposure Effect dictates your hormones here… the more time you spend around someone, the more attracted you will become to them. And – obviously – vice [...]

Marriage is Good For Your Health!… Until It’s Not

Marriage: When it’s good, it’s very good. But when it’s bad, it’s… deadly? New York Times Magazine recently published this long piece on whether marriage is good for your health or not. Very early studies into the matter, circa 1858, concluded that marriage is a healthy estate and that single people died from disease “in [...]

Will Marriage Always Have a Place in Society?

It’s pretty much common knowledge by now that the marriage rate in the Western world has been on a steady decline since the 1950s. Even moreso in Europe than in the US, people are electing again and again not to get married. The divorce rate is insane, and divorces are easier and cheaper than ever [...]

Mistresses vs. Wives – The Showdown

A survey conducted by the Women’s Weekly shows that nearly half the 1115 respondents that answered the survey report that when they were single they had had an affair with a married or otherwise-committed man. While these affairs rarely led to the break up of the man’s marriage/relationship, over a third of them lasted for [...]

Me and Febusave

I am the first to admit that I’m crap when it comes to saving money. For a long time, I was convinced that there were many more interesting things I could be doing with my money, rather than hiding it away where it would never come out to play. Things have changed. For one, I [...]

For Men: How to Buy Lingerie for Your Sweetie

Today’s post is written by the saucy Bra Queen, who knows more about lingerie than anyone I know! Valentine’s Day is coming and you’re probably thinking about what a con the whole shebang is. To be honest? You’re probably right. But any man worth his weight in gold would want to Va-va-VOOM his Valentine. Blow [...]

Denis! You can’t be friends with your Ex-Girlfriend!

I’m friends with an ex – well she wasn’t technically a girlfriend, just someone I knocked socks with for quite some time. We weren’t always friends… around the time I began knocking socks with Emma the Ex walked out of my life – not because of Emma, just cause it was time to let that [...]

How to Survive the Festive Season Together

Love it or hate it, there’s no escaping the festive season. And it’s approaching fast! For some, it’s dreams of a white Christmas in front of yule logs, singing carols and trimming the tree… a lot of the time though, the stress of the holidays can result in heated arguments, crappy presents and trying to [...]

Are You and Your Sweetie Speaking the Same Love Language?

It turns out, Denis and I are not speaking the same Love Language… in fact, our Love Languages are so different that Denis might as well talk to me in Klingon for all the good it does to get through, and likewise right back at him. The Love Language theory was developed by a lovely [...]