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Do Soulmates Exist?

I got thinking about this after reading a recent guest post on Mamamia… Do soulmates exist?

I think… I think so, but I think there is more than just one other true soul mate out there for everyone. Like maybe there’s a certain – batch – of people that we are somehow connected to. The ones you click with straightaway. Not just your significant others, either. It could be that you’re just lifelong friends. It could be a lover for awhile, but not the one you end up with.

I think you kind of… recognize… those people that are from your batch almost right away. I still remember the first second I saw Denis, which I think is weird.

Do soulmates exist?

Usually I remember, oh I don’t know, perhaps the circumstances under which I meet someone – where I met them, how I met them… but never that jolt of energy that I clearly, distinctly remember when I met Den. It’s strange because our relationship was slow burning, not a rush of love-at-first-sight giddiness or anything. We started as friends before anything else. Neither of us was looking for a relationship. But still. Something kicked at my stomach when I saw him and I recall it vividly.

Then there are other friends (guys and girls), and sometimes just acquaintances that have never become “proper” friends, that whenever I see them we are both genuinely delighted to see each other and could talk for hours about nothing in particular. These people are people that I am just… drawn to… and no matter how long since I’ve seen them, we can always go back and pick up where we left off. Maybe they’re just my “type” of people?

And so, while I am completely in love with my husband and wouldn’t change anything for the world, I don’t think there is just ONE person or one soul mate out there for everyone. I think there might be multiple…. friends, lovers, whatever… in all different capacities and at all different times of your life, there are people out there that are perfect for you.

Do you have a type of people? Do you think there’s just one true soul mate for everyone or more than one?

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4 comments for “Do Soulmates Exist?”

  1. Posted by Denis | October 26, 2009, 5:07 pm

    Ya, I believe that we have more than one soul mate… for sure!

    I definitely feel that some people just understand me better than others. It’s a nice warm feeling when spending time with them.

  2. Posted by Cupido | December 21, 2009, 10:33 pm

    I do believe that soul mates exist. I do not however believe that you are destined to be with your soulmate. There may be the perfect person for you in every way except for 1 thing that could be missing but all in all this person completes you.

    It may sound weird but soul mates can be best friends but not necessarily lovers in my opinion.

  3. Posted by You can’t be friends with your Ex! | $30 date night | Date Ideas, Marriage & Romance Blog | January 25, 2010, 9:56 pm

    [...] Up until recently the friendship with the Ex was great – when we met up we had fun, a lot of laughs and a good ear to talk to. It’s like we’re cut from the same mould, the friendship was easy and genuine…. until, her boyfriend decided that he couldn’t handle it anymore and told her that he wants her to stop seeing me. (Here, Em’s thoughts on Soul-Mates) [...]

  4. Posted by Romantify | October 22, 2012, 9:46 am

    I think it is a very tough question to answer. In theory, if you look at the millions of a people on this globe, it sounds naïve to say there is only one person that is your ideal match. But if you lose the person you love, it is the only person you can think about for a long time.
    Eventually you will meet someone else, but is this because time made you forget your former soulmate or is it a new soulmate?
    I believe your first lover or soulmate has the deepest impact on you and (for me at least in this phase of my life) nobody has been able to replace this feeling.

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