Happy New Year! Can you believe it’s 2013? Crazy. I love the new year, though. A fresh start and new hopes. I always like to start the new year on a good note, so the house gets cleaned and I make sure to do something meaningful on New Year’s Day that’s a reflection of how I want my year to go. This time it was a long walk followed by some quiet time alone under a tree in the botanical gardens. Exercise, health, R&R are big themes for my 2013, along with lots of hard work and business focus.
Have you made your resolutions yet? We don’t like to think of them as resolutions, but every new year’s eve Den and I sit down and we write out our goals together for the coming 12 months.
Some of them are personal goals that we share with each other to make sure we stay on track – having someone there to support your goals is really important to help you keep them. Writing them down and looking at them often is also handy.
Others are goals we make as a couple. Having something to work towards that keeps us both on the same track is imperative to our relationship.
One of our goals for 2013, believe it or not, is to date each other more often. You might think that sounds crazy given we run this very website but to be honest, we’ve let the “date night every week” thing slip. This is normal. It happens. But we do want to keep prioritising our time together as important, and that means recommitting again and again, even when you’ve been slack for awhile.
Judging by a survey we put out at the end of last year, more than 80% of you wish that you would date your partner more often. Hundreds of couples told us that.
So make it happen.
Do whatever you need to do to make it happen. Date nights need structure, so you can ensure they happen. Click here for the rules we follow when we’re being really good at dating each other.
The most important thing you can do for your date nights is to get your calendars synced and work out what night works for you best. Commit to it and keep it. Date night is first priority. If something clashes with your prescheduled date night, you ask your partner first if they mind moving to another night. Commit to a new night before you cancel your standing date.
Have you set goals as a couple for 2013? What are they? Is dating a priority for you?