Well we know nothing comes for free these days. Turns out not even love is free. It comes at a cost.
And the going rate is two of your best friends. Ouch!
From The Age Newspaper:
“Research has shown that when people start a new romantic relationship they are likely to lose two members of their inner circle of friends.
One is sacrificed to make way for the new partner, and the other disappears due to being ignored for too long, scientists believe.”
The findings were presented at a conference by Professor Robin Dunbar. This is the first time scientists have been able to point to clear statistics when it comes to relationships and friendships.
More from the article:
“Dunbar suspects one reason people lose friends when they fall in love is simply the amount of time devoted to the new partner.
“The intimacy of a relationship, your emotional engagement with it, correlates very tightly with the frequency of your interactions,” he said.
“If you don’t see people, emotional engagement starts to drop off with time, and does so fairly quickly.
“What I suspect happens is you’re so wholly focused on the romantic partner you just don’t get to see the folks you held onto before, and so some of those relationships start to deteriorate.”
Well, we all have one of those friends who, when they get a new partner, completely disengages from the group, never to be seen again. I’ve sent more than one search party in after a lovestruck friend.
And to be honest, I’m not a fan of disappearing into your relationship. I think people should try their hardest to maintain friendship groups.
Sound familiar? Lost a friend to love? Or perhaps you’re looking around now realising a couple of your nearest and dearest have dropped off?