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Surviving Valentine’s Day for Singles

This was originally published in mX newspaper on Friday 11 February, 2011…

Just three short sleeps to the biggest date on any singleton’s calendar. Yep, Monday is Singles Awareness Day.

As it looms closer, I hear noises of discomfort from friends.

Most will assure you they hate Valentine’s Day – who wants the overpriced flowers, the forced niceties, et cetera?

As a couple, it’s not all that much fun all the time either. Restaurants are a sea of silent tables for two on the Valentine set menu. Presents create pressure. Messages can get lost in translation.

“I’ve hated Valentine’s Day ever since I thanked the wrong guy for flowers one year,” says E.

“The card was signed: ‘From You Know Who’. How was I supposed to know that didn’t mean the guy I was seeing at the time?”

Her flowers turned out to be from a secret admirer at work. Meanwhile, her panicked boyfriend turned up later with a sad-looking, last-left-at-the-florist bouquet, not wanting to be outdone by an unknown rival.

Now, coupled up or single, she besmirches the Valentine trend.

So what to do if you’re a Valentine-hater?

Ironically, you’re not alone.

For one, stay away from restaurants or other vaguely romantic venues.

But that doesn’t mean you have to stay indoors.

If you’re leaving the house, gravitate to decidedly unsexy places.

One Twitter follower has an appointment to donate blood on Valentine’s Day. How perfect is that? It’s int he spirit of giving and she is guaranteed to be asked back for a second date.

Other suggestions include the bowling alley; a pool table at the local pub; anywhere that serves German food (let’s face it, you’re not going to find many loved-up couples sharing a sausage and sauerkraut).

But if bloodletting, bowling and bratwurst aren’t your things, and you’re feeling festive, get a group of single friends together and celebrate.

Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love – you should be with people who adore you.

You can also be grateful that you’re not stuck in a soul-destroying, awful relationship.

Not being in a relationship on Valentine’s Day is infinitely better than being in a bad relationship on Valentine’s Day.

Alternatively, make sure you pamper yourself.

There’s a certain comfort to knowing you can provide lovely experiences for yourself without relying on someone else to do it under duress.

And that goes for any day – not just February 14.

Whatever you end up doing on Monday, I hope you have a great day and you end it with a smile on your face.

So what did you do for Valentine’s Day this year? How was it? Denis arrived home in the morning from the gym with a bunch of roses for me, then took me to breakfast at Cumulus Inc, one of my favourite brekky haunts.

Later that day, the sunshine was out so we jumped in the car and headed to wine country for an afternoon tea followed by an early dinner. There wasn’t a set menu in sight!

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Writer, dating columnist, wife, coffee addict, foodie, fashionista... Melburnian through and through. Muser, dancer, blogger, tweeter. Likes to get her head on telly now and again. Sleeper, dreamer, a sucker for romance. And of course... a cheap date.

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One comment for “Surviving Valentine’s Day for Singles”

  1. Posted by aiza@counseling | February 19, 2011, 4:02 am

    I agree with what you said that its better to be not with somebody and be single, than being with somebody whose not making you happy.

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