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The Heart Grows Fonder

Den is away this week; gallivanting off in the snow with a group of friends while I’m here at home holding down the business fort. He’s having a wonderful time, and I’m having a great time too. I quite love having the house to myself, my own space to relax, think, play my cheesy pop music that I know he hates, and just be… and I quite love missing him, actually.

Most couples spend that 2-2.5 hours a day together that we talked about last week. Den and I are fortunate that these days, we pretty much live in each other’s pockets. Working together, living together, sometimes socializing together… it’s nice to be away from each other for awhile in between to allow yourself to regroup. Too much time together, I think, and we start to take each other for granted. Lose a bit of the spark. We make an effort to get that spark back with our weekly date nights, but there’s nothing like a good, solid week of apartness to give you back a bit of ardor toward your partner. We even go so far as to not really talk every day on the phone or contact each other too much so that we can really miss each other’s company. And at the end of an extended period of time apart, there’s nothing so sweet as feeling really excited (tummy-butterfly excited!) to see them, or that first hug and kiss when you’re finally reunited.

I know couples, like us, that quite happily will spend time apart, missing their partner all the while. I know couples that refuse to spend more than one or two nights apart from each other, cutting weekends away short to get back to their lovers… couples that live, work, socialize and practically breathe together and still won’t spend time apart and couples that are both so busy that they barely see each other, even for date night.

What about you? Do you like missing your partner sometimes, or do you prefer to hold tight and close? Does it change when you have children? What would be your ideal schedule with your partner?

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  1. Posted by That Guy from across the hall | September 13, 2009, 8:58 pm

    I don’t travel much, and extremely rarely without without my wife – and I was surprised how much I missed her & my 1yr old son. I had a great time while I was away, but I couldnt’ wait to get back (and I think this feeling is esp. strong when you have young kids).

    Recently on MasterChef a contestant who made it into the top 20 walked out because he couldn’t stand to be away from his wife. The hug when he got home would’ve been something else ;)

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