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Giveaway: Friends with Benefits In-season Passes

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Friends with benefits. We’ve made no secret of it – that’s how the Den and Emma story started. Great friends, then, for the better part of a whole year, friends who knocked socks occasionally (okay, it was a bit more than occasionally. More like a couple of times a week. You can see how we got ourselves in trouble).

Is there a more fun and satisfying arrangement for a couple of single young things who don’t want to be tied down? Probably not.

Now the thing about casual sex? It’s not always casual. I’ve written about this before:

“Having sex (casual or otherwise) drives up the levels of dopamine, the romantic love hormone, leaving you primed to fall head over heels for your bed-buddy. On top of that, every time you orgasm, you’re delivered a surge of vasopressin and oxytocin, the attachment hormones that bond mothers to their babies.

So even if you just tell yourself it’s casual sex, you’re in real danger of becoming attached.

Is it any wonder hook-ups often end in complication, confusion and tears?

Anthropologist Helen Fisher even thinks that men and women continue to casually hook up to unconsciously trigger those feelings of romance and bonding.

Tread carefully – you may end up more attached than you think.”

Read that article in full here: Casual Sex? Not Always Casual.

This fun new movie, called (aptly enough) Friends with Benefits stars Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake. Mila is a comedy genius (big fan of her work as Meg Griffin. Huge) and I’m excited to see her in a lead role for a new-generation rom com.

Sony Pictures says: A young female head-hunter (Mila Kunis) in New York convinces a potential recruit (Justin Timberlake) to accept a job in the Big Apple. Despite an attraction to each other, both realise they’re everything they’ve been running from in a relationship and decide to see what happens if they leave emotion out of it and keep it strictly physical.

We’ve got 10 double passes to see Friends with Benefits up for grabs.

To win, leave a comment below to enter and tell us what you think about having a bonk-buddy. Like it or loathe it? Ever gotten too attached?

Passes valid in Australia only. 10 commenters will be chosen at random. Competition closes midnight Monday 15 August, winners announced on Tuesday 16 August.

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Discussion

13 comments for “Giveaway: Friends with Benefits In-season Passes”

  1. Posted by Tammi | August 9, 2011, 3:26 pm

    Bad idea. I did it for over two years(!), eventually falling for the guy, finding the strength to make a clean break, go on holidays, come back only to have him declare his love and we started up a relationship. A year (to the day) later we broke up because I always had it in the back of my mind that sex was more important than love for him.

    One person always ends up falling for the other, and while it’s FUN at the time, it’s not worth the emotional turmoil.

  2. Posted by Kristy | August 9, 2011, 4:10 pm

    It can work. I did it with an ex-boyfriend for five years. We agreed it was what it was…just sex. We already knew a relationship would never work between us but we all have an itch that needs to be scratched. We both liked the idea of fulfilling each others needs without adding to the number of people we had both slept with. When it started getting serious with my current partner we happily agreed to go our separate ways. I’ve been in my relationship now for nearly four years and my ex is now married.

  3. Posted by Geoff | August 9, 2011, 5:50 pm

    It’s tough, but not impossible, for a friends with benefits situation to have a happy ending. This is especially true if either party is not communicating their needs and wants in an effective way. It is almost certain someone will get more involved which will lead to trouble. However, there are exceptions and it doesn’t mean it’s not a ‘mistake’ worth making. I think it is one of those things you have to experience before you know whether it is right for you.

    For me, personally, I think a sex-buddy is a lot easier relationship to maintain. What’s the difference? There’s very little pretense on being friends and the sex doesn’t happen very frequently, just once in a while when someone needs a shag.

    My most successful buddy/benefit relationships have usually been framed around a shorter period of time. Someone is going traveling or leaving for a job etc. This way there is a clear end date meaning it’s harder for either person to envision a relationship.

  4. Posted by Claire | August 9, 2011, 5:58 pm

    FWB can be a fantastic arrangement IF (and only if) you both agree on the rules from the start, and don’t blur the boundaries. As soon as you start calling each other randomly or hanging out outside the bedroom, it gets complicated.

    Sadly someone usually ends up getting in deeper than the other – spelling disaster!

    I have been in a couple of long-term FWB arrangements.. one ended well and we are still good friends.. the other ended spectacularly badly when he told me he had proposed to another girl. Nice.

    Personally, I love the freedom it gives me while still taking care of the physical needs.. but it’s a VERY fine line.. USER BEWARE!

  5. Posted by Jade | August 9, 2011, 6:13 pm

    My bonk buddy is now my partner. It started off as cheeky flirting via text, led to a few bonks but we’d already had a strong friendship and it felt natural to let it evolve. :)

  6. Posted by Jaded Vixen | August 9, 2011, 7:46 pm

    Bad idead…someone always feels something more and ends up getting hurt. A pretty mess!

  7. Posted by Lou | August 12, 2011, 7:03 pm

    Has never worked out well for me…mind you if Justin was asking you would have to give it a go…

  8. Posted by Shirley | August 15, 2011, 4:17 pm

    Meh, never had one.

  9. Posted by Katie | August 15, 2011, 4:38 pm

    Never done it, so I guess I have no experience to back me up but I’d say it’s a no go.

    I’d be the one who falls in love with the other person… I’m emotional, I wouldn’t be able to handle the heartbreak!

  10. Posted by Fee283 | August 15, 2011, 5:00 pm

    It works well in theory, but when one has more feelings than the other (in my experience it was him) it because a risk for the friendship. & it’s hard to go back to platonic.

  11. Posted by Zoe | August 15, 2011, 5:53 pm

    I think it’s like anything else – good communication is the key to make it work. If both parties are honest from the start and throughout and are both in it for the same reason why shouldn’t it work?

    If feelings change though it has to be raised – otherwise feelings will most certainly get hurt. After all, FWB is still a relationship, just one with different rules to a commitment.

  12. Posted by Karen eissenfelder | August 17, 2011, 3:05 am

    Not into it. Never done it. Rather not be sharing bodily fluids with “other people”. How many other friends with benefits does your friend really have? Yuck.
    Never done it and never will. Maybe I dont know what I’m missing out on. Would hate to then meet another friend that gave my partner “benefits” later down the track if things do go further than the friend phase with a man. Awkward.

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